The article analyzes the problem of domestic violence, it also analyzes the social physical and social psycho-emotional nature of its origin. With the help of the following research methods: analysis of literature, conversations, observations, empirical research as well as research methodologies: questionnaire of the parental relationship (ORO) by Varga A.Y. and Stolin V.V., were studied the characteristics of childparent relations in the families of military personnel with psychosomatic disorders. A comparative analysis h as been carried out of the styles of family relations and psychoemotional characteristics of school-age children from the families of servicemen and students of the Odessa Secondary School No. 56. A characteristic of the psychoemotional state of the children of the selected group is presented on the basis of the study.